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Why Are You Still Unhappy?

I created Dane Life Fitness because I feel all aspects of life need to be fit for one to find true contentment. You need balance and health in all aspects of life: your body, emotions, job/career, home life, relationships, and passions, and all areas need to work compliment each other (not be in juxtaposition).

Take stock for a moment, how many aspects of your life from the above-list are you happy with and feel there is balance. Keep in mind balance means that there’s an equality to all areas of your life – i.e., you’re not neglecting your fitness needs or allowing work to overshadow any and all play time (passions, hobbies, joys).


If you have any aspects that you are unhappy with, my next question is how long have you felt this way? If you’ve been unhappy for more than a month or two, I must ask why!? I suspect your answer is what all my clients have answered with: no time, no energy, no money, no way to make a change. To which I respond: bullshit.

The only thing that keeps anyone from making a positive change is fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of pain. But fear is not a viable and tangible obstacle, it is simply an emotion that keeps you stuck. Trite as it sounds “there is nothing to fear but fear itself.” Once you stop fear from hiding the truth of what you need to do and how you need to do it, change becomes easier.


Change happens when you choose movement over wallowing. Any step is better than stagnation. Movement begins body transformations. Taking action instead of talking changes relationships and home life. Deciding where/who you want to be in your career/job puts you on a path which begets movement which translates into change.


Change of perspective is key. Imagine it was your child or sibling in your situation. How would you advise them? Could you see a step-by-step path to help them change, or a better emotional perspective? You likely could because when you view a situation hypothetically (or outside of yourself) vision and understanding are always clearer.


So why are you still unhappy? Are you trying to change everything all at once. All or nothing? A successful life is one where you keep growing, changing, and learning. Pick one thing – one little baby step if you’re really scared – and just jump. The next little step will easier. Soon you’ll be moving with larger steps and more confident purpose. It really is this simple. But don’t stop with a few successes. Never stop until you have the life you want in all arenas.

Life coaches such as I are trained to help clients out of their fear and funk and into proactivity and positive results. But I know each and every one of you can get yourself into a better place on your own if you are truly motivated enough. Stop being unhappy. Life is short!